This topic is going to be controversial, I ask you to forgot what you’ve been taught, just for 10 minutes while reading this, open your mind, because…
what if we were wrong?
What if our respect put millions of people prematurely in their grave? What if our respect gave millions of people a terrible pain to endure? What if?
Real definition of respect
- a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
- due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others.
- admire (someone or something) deeply, as a result of their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
- have due regard for (someone’s feelings, wishes, or rights).
- avoid harming or interfering with.
- agree to recognize and abide by (a legal requirement).
Respect is one of my key values, and I believe everyone that deserves respect should get it. Respect has to be earned, deserved, not automatically given.
- Respect that old lady and carry her groceries.
- Respect that old man and open the door for him.
- Respect that elderly couple and let them sit.
- Respect that old person and pick that up.
Respect—and take away everything from a human being that they need to respect themselves.
Before I make my point clear(er), let’s talk about common things elderly people usually can’t do anymore, and probably in that order:
- Clean their house
- Get their groceries
- Bend down
- Get up from the chair
- Get out of bed
- Clean themselves
- Do anything at all
The other day I saw this question posted:
Why do you go to the gym?
Get stronger. Get shredded. Get bigger. Look good naked.
Immediately I thought “How wrong they are. None of the above”. I go to the gym because I respect myself, I want to maintain my abilities till the day I die. I want to be able to clean my own house, get my own groceries, clean myself, tie my shoelaces, stand for long periods of time, walk, run, climb, and more. I want to walk around and feel comfortable. I go to the gym for internal reasons, that what comes externally is an added bonus.
If I baby my son, he will get lazy, he will get the attitude of “someone will do that for me”, no matter what age someone is at, if they get babied, they turn into a baby. The sooner you treat a baby like an adult, the sooner they’ll turn into one. Tough love!
It’s in our nature to find blame elsewhere, it’s easier to blame age rather than the fact you just stopped doing shit, you stopped moving, you stopped caring, you got lazy.
Excuses are little lies used to try to justify, to lessen the blame. “But it rains!” Training/working out is not something you give up on when it rains, doing so, means that you really don’t value what you get from it, you’ve put it low on the list of priorities, it’s still not ingrained in your daily routine, you still don’t really understand how life works, and most importantly, how you can feel 100% better.
“As we get older”… fuck that!
I’ve heard it over and over again, said to others, and spewed in my ear “just wait till you get older, you’ll..”
- Get fat
- Won’t be able to do as much
- Have to slow down
- Won’t be as strong
- Won’t be as fast
- Won’t be able to do that
This comes from people who are lazy, it makes them feel better about themselves, it’s from people who accept what society tells them is so. Lazy people are unwilling to work or use energy.
There are so many things that contribute to not being able to move, and most of the time, it comes down to laziness. Are you willing to learn about what your body needs, are you willing to walk a bit further to get the right kind of food, are you willing to put in the effort to feed your body what it needs?
If you stop feeding the body what it needs, it gets fat, it doesn’t heal, it hurts, it will tell you in many ways that you’re not listening. If you stop using your brain, you get dumber. If you stop using your muscles, you’ll get weaker. If you stop moving, it will get difficult to start moving again.
I understand that this article will for most, be something to laugh at, shrugged away, ignored etc. and that doesn’t make me mad, just sad, sad to see people waste a precious life. If on the other hand you’re one of the few this resonates with, I can highly recommend kettlebell training (or any other form of exercise) to you. I started many years ago and it has improved my life drastically, I’ve not gone backwards, even though you could probably say I’m at the halfway mark of my lifespan. I reached that age where people said “just wait and see”. I’ve reached that point people warned me about, and:
- My hips are looser than ever
- I’m more flexible than I’ve ever been
- My mental toughness is the strongest it’s ever been
- My understanding of the mind and body is bigger than ever
And most of all, there is nothing I can’t do, that I could before, the contrary is true, I can do things I wasn’t able to do before.
Don’t let yourself turn into a baby, always learn, always keep moving forward, die with dignity, die with self respect.
Let’s be clear here, if I’m sitting down, and I see an elderly person that has trouble standing, I will offer my seat, but if I see someone struggle but still able to do whatever it is they’re trying to do, I remind myself that I’m actually helping them stay stronger for longer if I don’t take away that which keeps them moving, it has nothing to do with respect.
My point: You don’t get old, you get lazy.
While I wrote this, several inspirational people came to mind: